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Why Codependents Don’t Trust Themselves to Make Decisions and How to Start

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Why Codependents Don’t Trust Themselves to Make Decisions and How to Start


“Slow, soulful living is all about coming back to your truth, the only guidance you’ll ever need. You are more likely to follow other people if you rush. When you bring in mindfulness, you have the power to align with yourself.” ~Kris Franken

Before I was diagnosed with codependency, it caused a lot pain and agony. It manifested itself in my inability trust myself. I would overthink decisions to death, fearful that I would choose the “wrong one” or upset someone if they didn’t agree or were disappointed by my choice.

I was terrified of “making a mistake,” and I exhausted myself trying to collect everyone’s opinion (to ensure they would be pleased with me) before finally settling on a choice.

As annoying as it was, for me and everyone around me, I couldn’t seem to stand firm in my decisions. I longed to be more confident in my choices but couldn’t understand why it was so hard for me.

Growing up with an authoritative, controlling parent, I didn’t have the opportunity and support I needed to feel my feelings and let my intuition guide my choices. I didn’t get to learn from my mistakes. Making a mistake felt like death. I was often blamed for my mistakes, shamed, and criticised all the while.



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