“Love yourself enough to let go of the people, thoughts, and habits that are weighing you down.” ~Karen Salmansohn
More than a year ago I started unpacking and cleaning out my ‘backpack’ of life in a different way.
I have always tried to remain friends with exes, and even though we didn’t necessarily socialize together, there was still the odd keeping in touch, helping them with a favor, or “Happy Birthday” text.
While most of them are generally nice people, the truth is that if I never dated them, I probably wouldn’t be friends with them now. We’re just on different paths, have grown in different ways, or have vastly different priorities (or values). Some were also great manipulators and for others, I was perhaps a time filler.
They were part of my emotional baggage that I carried around with me every day. I certainly don’t pine over them or even think about them all that much, but I felt a sense of intense guilt at the thought of cutting them off.
Would I make a bad friend if I stopped doing favors, assisting with a strange work presentation they needed help with or being available for emotional support? Would I be a bad friend for not doing favors anymore, for not helping them with an odd presentation at work, or for not being there for emotional support when they need it?
Their work presentation and…