“If you don’t love yourself, you’ll always be looking for someone else to fill the void inside you, but no one will ever be able to do it.” ~Lori Deschene
There are four attachment styles: avoidant, anxious/avoidant and secure.
Attachment theory tells us that our relationship with our romantic partner mirrors our relationship with our primary caregivers as children.
You may have been like me and felt an empty inside. You feel unlovable and unworthy, which makes it easy to fall for avoidant partners.
Avoidant partners are those who believe their independence is more important that being in a relationship. They don’t feel comfortable opening up to other people. They prefer casual relationships over intimate ones. When they start to feel insecure or too attached to you, they will abandon you.
You suddenly find yourself in a situation where your super cute date is canceled or pushed back without explanation. This leaves you questioning your worth, and wondering what you could have done wrong. I know this because I have been there.