“I have never known a patient to portray their parents more negatively than they actually experienced them in childhood but always more positively–because idealization of their parents was essential for their survival.” Alice Miller, Thou Shalt Not Be Aware: Society’s Betrayal of the Child
We can help you by contacting us.’Re-born into dysfunctional families, and by some miracle manage to recognize the problem.’There’s something wrong with that. We can spend a large portion (if not the entire time we have on Earth) trying to create a life free of the pain and despair we experienced as children.
It’s a difficult feat.
Universally, the institution of family is regarded as sacred. But when this unquestioned bubble becomes a breeding ground for trauma, neglect, or abuse—be it covert or explicit, emotional or physical, subtle or extreme—then naming a breach, taking a stand, protecting ourselves, or even deciding to proactively heal can be seen as a betrayal.
I have lived my life with some variation of these myths. They held me hostage for years and prevented me from healing.
After gradually unraveling these myths, I found the courage to stop contacting…