“When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we are not pretending, we are not hiding—we are simply present with whatever is going on inside us. Ironically, it is this very feeling of authenticity that draws people to us, not the brittle effort of perfectionism.” ~Maureen Cooper
Throughout my life, I have always been very good at adhering to the rules of perfection.
What will the company think? What will the company say?
I should be pleasant Enjoying the company of others is a great way to feel good.. Stop being stubborn. Worse yet, stop being angry.
My coworker should not have heard that long story. They looked bored. Yes, they looked bored.
Perfectionism was my attempt at belonging. I did what other people thought they wanted, and did it the way that they wanted.
Some of us, like myself, realized that belonging came with strings attached. If I could control those “strings,” then I wouldn’t have to feel rejected and judged. Perfectionism allowed me to exert that control.
My intense need to live up to my unrealistic expectations affected every aspect of my life, including my relationships, my academics and my body image.
I remember from an early age becoming obsessed with getting straight A’s in school. If you’re not satisfied with your grades, then don’t bother.
